My passion for encouraging emotional awareness in adults, adolescents, and pre-teens is exemplified by my books. I am the author of What Motivates Getting Things Done: Procrastination, Emotions, and Success; Emotions! Making Sense of Your Feelings; and, Understanding Myself: A Kid’s Guide to Intense Emotions and Strong Feelings. I co-authored The White Knight Syndrome: Rescuing Yourself from Your Need to Rescue Others and The Upside of Shame: Therapeutic Interventions Using the Positive Aspects of a "Negative" Emotion. My blog posts for Psychology Today, Therapy Today, and Thrive Global websites illustrate my endeavor to convey an understanding of emotion and its significant role in who we become. With this same goal in mind, I am also a professor in the doctoral program at the Wright Institute in Berkeley and have a private practice in Kentfield, California.
An informative and practical guide--filled with current and relevant psychological research on emotions as well as real-life stories, useful quizzes, and fun-fact boxes to help kids understand the strong feelings and intense emotions that are part of pre-teen life.
What is the point of guilt? Or anxiety? Or hope? Just what are these emotions trying to tell you? Everything!
Emotions are a powerful and extraordinary part of being human. Your emotions serve as an instant cueing system to inform you about situations and motivate you to take action. All of your emotions are valuable—they inform you, affect the decisions you make, and can motivate you to reach your goals.
Many successful people put things off until a deadline beckons them, while countless others can't resist the urge to do things right away. This book explores the emotional lives of people who are successful in their endeavors--both procrastinators and non-procrastinators alike--to illustrate how the human motivational system works, why people respond to it differently, and how everyone can use their natural style of getting things done to their advantage.
There is much more to shame than its reputation as a negative emotional state. This clinical book delves into the role of shame in many complex issues such as personality disorders, anxiety, depression, and addictions to show how an understanding of the positive side of shame can be translated into practical therapeutic interventions.
Are you attracted to needy, damaged, or helpless people? Do you feel like your love can heal your partner? Are you overly involved in your partner's problems? Are you hungry for constant reassurance in relationships? Do you make excuses for your partner? Do you try to "save" people from themselves?
In legends and fairytales, the white knight rescues the damsel in distress, falls in love, and saves the day. Real-life white knights are men and women who enter into romantic relationships with damaged and vulnerable partners, hoping that love will transform their partner's behavior or life--a pattern that seldom leads to a storybook ending.