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My passion for encouraging emotional awareness in adults, adolescents, and pre-teens is exemplified by my books. I am the author of What Motivates Getting Things Done: Procrastination, Emotions, and Success; Emotions! Making Sense of Your Feelings; and, Understanding Myself: A Kid’s Guide to Intense Emotions and Strong Feelings. I co-authored The White Knight Syndrome: Rescuing Yourself from Your Need to Rescue Others and The Upside of Shame: Therapeutic Interventions Using the Positive Aspects of a "Negative" Emotion. My blog posts for Psychology TodayTherapy Today, and Thrive Global websites illustrate my endeavor to convey an understanding of emotion and its  significant role in who we become. With this same goal in mind, I am also a professor in the doctoral program at the Wright Institute in Berkeley and have a private practice in Kentfield, California. 


Understanding Myself: A Kids Guide to Intense Emotions and Strong Feelings

Children and emotions

An informative and practical guide--filled with current and relevant  psychological research on emotions as well as real-life stories, useful  quizzes, and fun-fact boxes to help kids understand the  strong feelings and intense emotions that are part of pre-teen life. 

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Emotions: Making Sense of Your Feelings


What is the point of guilt? Or anxiety? Or hope? Just what are these emotions trying to tell you? Everything! 

Emotions are a powerful and extraordinary part of being human. Your  emotions serve as an instant cueing system to inform you about  situations and motivate you to take action. All of your emotions are valuable—they inform you, affect the decisions you make, and can motivate you to reach your goals.

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What Motivates Getting Things Done: Procrastination, Emotions, and Success

Procrastination, emotions, success

Many successful people put things off until a deadline  beckons them, while countless others can't resist the urge to do things  right away. This book explores the emotional lives of people who are  successful in their endeavors--both procrastinators and  non-procrastinators alike--to illustrate how the human motivational  system works, why people respond to it differently, and how everyone can  use their natural style of getting things done to their advantage. 

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The Upside of Shame: Therapeutic Interventions Using the Positive Aspects of a "Negative" Emotion

The upside of shame

There is much more to shame than its reputation as a negative emotional  state. This clinical book delves into the role of shame in many complex  issues such as personality disorders, anxiety, depression, and  addictions to show how an understanding of the  positive side of shame can be translated into practical therapeutic  interventions. 

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The White Knight Syndrome: Rescuing yourself from Your Need to Rescue Others

White Knight Syndrome

Are you attracted to needy, damaged, or  helpless people? Do you feel like your love can heal your partner? Are  you overly involved in your partner's problems? Are you hungry for  constant reassurance in relationships? Do you make excuses for your  partner? Do you try to "save" people from themselves?

In legends and  fairytales, the white knight rescues the damsel in distress, falls in  love, and saves the day. Real-life white knights are men and women who  enter into romantic relationships with damaged and vulnerable partners,  hoping that love will transform their partner's behavior or life--a pattern that seldom leads to a storybook ending. 

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