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Mary Lamia, Ph.D.

Mary Lamia, Ph.D.Mary Lamia, Ph.D.Mary Lamia, Ph.D.

PSYCHOLOGIST ~ PROFESSOR ~ AUTHOR

PSYCHOLOGIST ~ PROFESSOR ~ AUTHORPSYCHOLOGIST ~ PROFESSOR ~ AUTHOR

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Link to all Psychology Today blog posts

Shame that Pains Us Can Also Change Us

Lighting a Fire When the Love Light Grows Dim

What Good Is Regret?

The Hidden Struggle: Understanding Shame in Addiction

Exploring Ageism: Are We All Guilty of Age Bias?

How We Can Be Transformed by Loss

The Shadows of Lost Dreams in Matters of the Heart

Winter Whispers: Four Ways to Cope with Year-End Grief

Tragic Love: The Finest Romance and Soul-Wrenching Heartache

Why Comfort Food Is Consoling or a Lover's Scent Appealing

Silent Remembering: The Meaning of Unspoken Grief

Why Grief-Related Experiences Can Seem Illogical

The Acquired Hearing Loss and Cognitive Decline Connection

Lost Love: How We Can Learn From Failed Relationships

How Loss Changes Us

How a Physical Illness Can Trigger Depression

Loving on the Edge

Why Last Year's Failed Resolutions Can Be a Path to Success

The Irresistible "Side Quest": Should We Avoid Distractions?

Grief, Holidays, and Sensory Memories

The Silent, Post-Abortion Grief of Men

How Children Grieve

Why We Grieve Change, Endings, and Disappointments

Why and How, Relationships Go on Even After Death 

Why Some People Run From Love

Remembering Lost Love

Hanging On to Items that Trigger Memories

The Hidden Shame of Romantic Heartbreak

Letting Go of a Relationship: Is Grief a Disorder?

Love, Loss, and Sensory Memories

Grief Isn't Something to Get Over

What Are Beliefs?

The Surprising Emotions Evoked by Bullies and Abusers

Why Fear Differs Among Us

Feeling What It Means to Be Affluent

Strain Trauma: When Prolonged Stress Is Just Too Much

What Jealousy Is Trying to Tell You

What Hides in the Shadow of Anxiety

The Upside of Shame

Easing Social Distance Isolation, Virtually

Understanding Procrastinating Children

Do Narcissists Actually Lack Empathy?

Excuses

What Motivates Resilience, Even on Minor Things

Do You Really Want to Know a Secret?

Breakups and Other Painful Life Events: Why We Feel So Bad

The Perplexing Notion of Depression as Anger Turned Inward

Procrastination Deadline Mania is Not "Irrational"

Yikes, I'm Behaving Like My Mother (or Father)

Regret

Behind Rejection

Clashing: Procrastinators Living with Non-Procrastinators

On Being in Denial

Decision-Making and Different Ways of Knowing

The Retreading Rebound Relationship

Unwelcome Emotional Memories

Why You Should Hire a Procrastinator

On Being "Triggered"

The Flavors of Everyday Anxiety

How Procrastinators Get Things Done

The Secret Life of Procrastinators and the Stigma of Delay

Procrastination is Not to Blame​

Why You Should Fear Failure

Getting Things Done: Procrastinating or Not​

On Knowing the Sex of Your Unborn Child

Why I Wish I Could Be A Narcissist

Why Time-Outs Need A Time Out

Illusion: The "Queen of the Human Heart"

Can You Accept A Compliment?

The Shame of Breaking-up

Is It Love Or Is It Confusion?

Reflections On Pixar's "Inside Out" and the Neglect of Shame

What Excites You?

Why Bullies Don't Feel Bad (Or Don't Know They Do)

Seeking Comfort the Impossible Way

How Blushing Exposes You and Benefits You

When Smartphones Hurt

Happiness Can Make You Cry and Smiling Can Make You Happier

Impossible Love

Twins: In Defense of Togetherness

What Makes A Soulmate?

Song of the Longing Soul

Meanness Hurts

What Makes You Happy…Really

When It's Over…Badly

"Rebound" Relationships"

Hooking-up" Can Unhinge You

Jealousy and Envy: The Emotions of Comparison and Contrast

When Being Giving Doesn't Give You What You Need

Loneliness, Shame, and Anguish

Longing and the Dread of Emptiness

On Being Afraid of Love

Violence and Shame: The Attack Other Response

What Makes You Driven?

Feeling Is Believing

Deconstructing Lust

Take Your Emotions To School! (Part 2, Social Success)

Take Your Emotions To School!

Do Emotions Lie?

Emotional Memories

Blissful Love Can Make You Sick or Crazy

Being Envied Is Not Enviable

Embarrassment

The Complexity of Fear

Should You Worry?

Sad Love

Pride: Turbo-charge for Motivation or Social Nemesis?

Maybe You Should Be Angry

Loneliness Has A Purpose

The Power of Hope and Recognizing When It's Hopeless

The Downside of Success: Guilt or Shame

Do we Get Over Grief?

Shame: The Concealed, Contagious, and Dangerous Emotion

Envy: The Secretly Held Emotion

What Jealousy Can Teach You

 Whatever Happened to Guilt?

Anxiety Is Your Friend

Like It or Not, Emotions Will Drive the Decisions You Make Today

The Perennial New Year's Resolution

Should Santa Care If You've Been Naughty or Nice?

On Reuniting: The Emotional Storm of High School Reunions

Children and Loss: When Holidays Trigger Grief

Making Emotional Sense of Why Baseball Players Spit

Do Bullies Actually Lack Empathy?

Do Bullies Have Low Self-esteem?

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