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Mary Lamia, Ph.D.


Educational Background

Certification in Psychoanalysis, San Francisco Psychoanalytic Institute                                                        
Ph.D. Clinical Psychology, California School of Professional Psychology
M.A. Educational Psychology, San Francisco State University
B.A. Psychology, University of California, Berkeley

Professional Affilliations

Editorial Advisory Board, Children’s Book Division, American Psychological Association
Member, The Tomkins Institute: Applied Studies in Motivation, Emotion, and Cognition
Advisory Board, America’s Angel—Raising the Bar On Raising America
Board Member, Italian-American Psychological Society
Member, American Psychological Association
Member, Division of Psychoanalysis, American Psychological Association
Member, Division  of Quantitative and Qualitative Methods, American Psychological  Association     

Member, California State Psychological Association
Member, Marin County Psychological Association


  • 2012 Family Choice Award for Understanding Myself: A Kid’s Guide to Intense Emotions and Strong Feelings.
  • 2012 Family Choice Award for Emotions! Making Sense of Your Feelings.
  • 2011  Italian American Psychological Society, Distinguished Italian American  Psychologist Award: “Outstanding achievements and distinguished  contributions to psychology”
  • 2007 San Francisco Psychoanalytic Institute and Society (San Francisco Center for Psychoanalysis), Distinguished Service Award
  • 2004  The Northern California Psychiatric Society Media Award:"Outstanding  journalist or broadcaster   who has brought to the attention of the  public issues related to mental health with sensitivity,        objectivity, and social responsibility."
  • 2003  Honorable Mention, Heart of America Award, American Legion  Auxiliary: “Creative Excellence in Communications Advancing the Status  of Women in America.”


  • Lamia, M. (7/27/18). Your gut is smarter than you think – and it can help you make better decisions. Business Insider
  • Lamia, M. (12/30/18). In 2018, don’t be afraid to embrace your inner procrastinator. The Globe and Mail, Canada. 
  • Kelly, V. & Lamia, M. (2018). The Upside of Shame. New York, NY: W.W. Norton.
  • Lamia, M. (2017). What Motivates Getting Things Done: Procrastination, Emotions, and Success. Lanham, MD: Rowman and Littlefield.
  • Lamia, M. and Krieger, M. (2016). The White Knight Syndrome: Rescue Yourself From Your Need to Rescue Others. Echo Point Books (republication).
  • Lamia, M. (2015). How to move on: Do you need to let go first? EliteDating.com.
  • Lamia, M. (2015). Embarrassment is an honest response. Waiting Room magazine.
  • Lamia, M. (2013). Note to parents, In Kim Joo-Kyung, A Happy Hat. American Psychological Association Magination Press.
  • Lamia, M. (2013). Note to parents. In Kim Young-Ah, I'm So Lonely. American Psychological Association Magination Press.
  • Lamia, M. (2012). Emotions! Making Sense of Your Feelings. Washington DC: American Psychological Association Magination Press.
  • Lamia, M. (2011). “Emotions: The engine of attention, action, and amusement (andwhy every kid should learn about them).” California Society for Clinical Social Work Newsletter.
  • Lamia, M. (2010). Understanding Myself: A Kid’s Guide to Intense Emotions and Strong Feelings. Washington D.C.: American Psychological Association /Magination Press.
  • Lamia, M. (2010-present). Psychology Today. Invited ongoing blog: Intense emotions and strong feelings. PsychologyToday.com
  • Lamia, M. (2010). “Feeling gloomy? How to deal.” Discovery Girls Magazine.
  • Lamia, M. (2010). “Can a procrastinating child succeed? About Families Magazine.
  • Lamia, M. (2010). “Emotions: The engine of attention, accomplishment, and amusement.” About Families Magazine. 
  • Lamia, M. (2010). Note to parents. In S. Levins, Eli’s Lie-O-Meter. Washington, D.C.: Magination Press, American Psychological Association.
  • Lamia, M. and Krieger, M. (2009-2011). Psychology Today. Invited ongoing blog, The White Knight Syndrome. PsychologyToday.com.
  • Lamia, M. and Krieger, M. (2009). The White Knight Syndrome: Rescuing Yourself From Your Need to Rescue Others. Oakland: New Harbinger.
  • Lamia, M. (2009). Book review: “Treating the ‘untreatable’” by Ira Steinman, M.D. San Francisco Center for Psychoanalysis Newsletter, April 2009.
  • Lamia, M. (2009). Note to parents. In D. Wagenbach, The Grouchies. Washington, D.C.: Magination Press, American Psychological Association.
  • Lamia,  M. (2009). Book review: “A course in happiness: Mastering the 3  levels of self-understanding that lead to true and lasting contentment”  by Mardi J. Horowitz. San Francisco Center for Psychoanalysis Newsletter, March 2009.
  • Lamia, M. (2007). Advice from an expert: Loss and abandonment. In M. Shepherd, 50 Best Girlfriend Getaways, National Geographic Books.
  • Lamia, M. (2007). When your parents start to date. In M. Gallagher, Ginny Morris and Dad’s New Girl Friend. Magination Press, American Psychological Association.
  • Lamia, M. (2007). Mind and Body with Dr. Mary. Monthly column for http://naturallycurly.com
  • Lamia, M. (2006). Making psychology a household word—Just for kids. Journal of Professional Psychology: Research and Practice, 37, 114-118.
  • Lamia,  M. (2002). Preparing Psychologists for the Media. Manuscript presented  to the National Council of Schools and Programs of Professional  Psychology.
  • Lamia, M. (1997). Book review: Lesbians and psychoanalysis: Revolutions in theory and practice. Archives of Sexual Behavior, 26.
  • Lamia, M. (1995). Beneficial and detrimental aspects of empathy between parents and children. A View From the Ridge: A Journal for Parents and Mentors of Teen Girls. Seattle, WA: Schools of the Sacred Heart.
  • Lamia, M. (1995). The defensive aspect of feminism and its resistance function in psychoanalysis. Journal of Clinical Psychoanalysis, Volume 4: 3, N.Y.: International Universities Press.
  • Lamia, M. (1983). The revision of object representations in adolescent males. In S. Feinstein, Ed., Adolescent Psychiatry. Volume 10.


  • Lamia, M. (2019). Head-Talk: "Procrastinators Have Feelings, Too."  California State Psychological Association Convention, Long Beach, CA.
  • Lamia, M. (2019). Presentation:  "Procrastination and the Stigma of Delay." California State Psychological Association Convention, Long Beach , CA.
  • Lamia, M. (2017). Presentation: “Driven by Deadlines or Tasks: What Motivates Getting Things Done.” 10th Biennial Procrastination Research Conference. DePaul University, Chicago.
  • Lamia, M. (2014). Presentation: “Shame and Anxiety In the  Learning Process: Making Sense of Feelings.” The Stanford-UC Berkeley  Brain and Behavior Conference, San Francisco.
  • Lamia, M. (2011). Presentation: “The Highly Successful Procrastinator.” Faculty Forum, The Wright Institute, Berkeley, CA.
  • Lamia,  M. (2011). Discussant: “Facilitating an older adolescent’s separation  from a troubled family.” The American Psychoanalytic Association Annual  Meeting, San Francisco.
  • Lamia, M. (2011). Panel Discussion: “The Early Years of Practice.” Marin County Psychological Association.
  • Lamia,  M. (2011). Presentation: “Anxiety.” Grand Rounds Presentation, Saint Francis Hospital, San  Francisco.
  • Lamia, M. (2011). Presentation: “Everyday Anxiety: The Engine of  Attention and Accomplishment.” Northern California Psychiatric Society  Annual Meeting.”
  • Lamia. M. (2011). Conference Presentation: “Emotions.” Marin County Community Mental Health.
  • Lamia,  M. (2010). “Fact and Fiction in Psychodynamics.” Grand Rounds  Presentation, Alta Bates Summit Medical Center, Berkeley, CA.
  • Lamia,  M. (2010). “Taking your knowledge public: Writing, speaking, and media  interviewing—their impact of your patients and practice.” Northern  California Psychiatric Society Annual Meeting.
  • Lamia, M. (2010). Discussant, North Bay Clinical Forum, San Francisco Center for Psychoanalysis.
  • Lamia,  M. (2009). Discussant: ”Marketing Your Practice Online: Practical  Challenges & Clinical Issues.” San Francisco Center for  Psychoanalysis Professional Development Salon.
  • Lamia, M. (2009,  2007, 2005, 2003, 2001, 1999, 1997, 1995, 1993, 1991, 1989,1987, 1985,  1983, 1981, 1979, 1977). “Careers in Psychology.” Presentation to the  students and parents of Saint Ignatius College Preparatory School.
  • Lamia,  M. (2008). Presentation:  “Creating A Relationship with the Media.” Santa Barbara  Psychological Association, Continuing Education Workshop.
  • Lamia.  M. (2008). “When the Seduction Fails, The Treatment Begins: Technical  Implications in the Handling of Erotic Transference.” Paper presented at  the Northern California Psychiatric Society Annual Meeting.
  • Lamia,  M. (2008). “There’s A Lot One Can Learn From A Crush: Promoting Social  Competency and Emotional Intelligence in Children.” Paper presented to  the parents of Marin Country Day School.
  • Lamia, M.; Schaef, S.;  and Tressel, M. (2008). “Working with the Media.” The American  Psychoanalytic Association, Winter 2008 meeting, New York.
  • Lamia. M. (2007). Conference Presentation: “Erotic Transference.” Marin County Community Mental Health.
  • Lamia, M. (2007). “Connecting with Children and Pre-teens.” Paper presented to the parents of Marin Country Day School.
  • Lamia, M. (2006). “The Pathogenesis of Erotic Transference.” Presentation to the students and faculty of the Wright Institute.
  • Lamia,  M. (2003). “Counseling Adolescents.” Presentation to the administration  and faculty of the Hebrew Academy of San Francisco.
  • Lamia, M. (2002). “Who Stole Childhood?” Paper presented to the parents and teachers of the Kentfield School District. 
  • Lamia, M. (2001). “Raising Children to Be Their Best.” Keynote Address, Strawberry and Tamalpais Preschool Annual Meeting.
  • Lamia, M. (2000). “Fostering the Emotional Well Being of Children and Caretakers.” Keynote Address, Community Action Marin.”
  • Lamia, M. (2000). “Women and Careers.” Presentation to the students of Adeline Kent Middle School.
  • Lamia, M. (1999). “Keeping Children Psychologically Safe.” Paper presented to the Charles Schwab Company, San Francisco.
  • Lamia,  M. (1998). “Meeting the Emotional Needs of Students: Effective  Discipline.” Paper presented at the Teaching Institute, Hebrew Academy  of San Francisco.
  • Lamia, M. (1997). “Reclaiming Personal Power.”  Keynote Address: Leadership Conference, The Junior League of San  Francisco, April 1997.
  • Lamia, M. (1997). “Using Emotional  Intelligence to Conquer the Anxieties of Salesmanship and Life.” Paper  presented to the Equitable Life Insurance Co., San Francisco.
  • Lamia,  M. (1997). Panel Discussion: “The Psychological Effects of Abuse.” The  Institute For Jewish Medical Ethics, San Francisco.
  • Lamia, M.  (1996). “Understanding Your Anxiety and How to Make It Work for You.”  Paper presented to the Sustainers of the Junior League of San Francisco.
  • Lamia, M. (1995). “Self-esteem Issues of Young Adolescents.” Presentation to the Parent-Teacher Association, Ross School.       
  • Lamia,  M. (1995). “From Feminism to the Wonderbra: How Women Regulate Their  Self-esteem.” Paper presented to the Junior League of San Francisco.


(Full list available upon request. See Media Links page for examples. )

I  have extensively provided interviews, commentary, or discussion for  radio, television, internet, and print media, including Forbes,  Huffington Post, ABC radio/television, Fox Network, KQED-FM, CBC Radio, KOIT radio,  CBS radio, Daybreak USA, The New York Times, The Globe and  Mail, Redbook, Thrive Global, Parent’s Magazine, Woman’s Day, WebMD,  Real Simple, United Airlines In-flight Magazine, San Francisco Magazine,  The San Francisco Chronicle, USA Today, The Detroit News, The Oakland  Tribune, The Chicago Tribune, The Washington Post, The Contra Costa  Times, Reuters News Service, The Marin Independent Journal, The Toronto  Sun, The San Mateo Daily Journal, The San Jose Mercury News, The Fresno  Bee, The Hartford Courant, Citizen Times, The Halifax, NS  Chronicle-Herald, Lifetime Magazine, ABCNews.com, The Seattle Times,  Family Circle Magazine, Viewpoints, The Costco Connection Magazine, Scientific American Mind, CNBC.com, and Sarder TV.

For nearly a decade I hosted a weekly call-in talk show, "KidTalk with Dr. Mary," on Radio Disney stations.